A long time friend and i have had a wish to travel together for quite a number of years now.
The stars recently aligned and we were able to do just that.
We were pretty open to places to stay, where to go, etc. Once we had sorted out a budget, she said i could book the accommodation and just let her know the outcome.
I found a lovely hotel interstate, a contemporary self contained apartment and best of all- I was able to get about 65% off the cost of the accommodation!
I had imagined the trip would have us seeing the local tourist hot spots, doing a lot of walking around taking in the scenery, maybe a bit of shopping and time back at the hotel catching up with each other, reminiscing about things we did as kids,funny stories, stories and memories of loved ones who have now passed on… just remembering all the good times.
Well, it seems that it didn’t happen like that at all. She seemed to be busy on her phone for much of the trip, or uninterested in the places we did visit.
I felt like such a bad person… and i still do.
I feel like not only am i now the worst friend on Earth, but i have, to an extent, lost the special bond we both had… I am unworthy of her friendship. I’m nothing more than a piece of scum, or something to complain to her friends about when she is having a bad day. I don’t blame her if she has been talking about what a crappy friend i am. I guess i deserve it, i should have allowed her to have more input in what happened during the trip.
I mean, i sent her a list of various accommodation options and asked her which she liked the most, i asked her what she would like to see or visit as soon as we had the accommodation booked and confirmed.
There were only a couple of paid attractions that we didn’t visit but we had spoken about it and realised museums and the like wasn’t exactly something that thrilled her. That was cool, i can work with that. We watched the sunset over beautiful mountain ranges and watched lakes and buildings glisten in the last light of the day’s sun.We visited lookouts which offered 360 degree views of the surrounding districts.
It still leaves me feeling like the worst friend on Earth.
Maybe i am just incredibly guilty for talking openly to my hubby and saying how i was disappointed that our short trip away was nothing like i imagined it would be. I expected there to be lots of laughs, conversations that lasted for many hours like we used to have, crazy out of tune singing to whatever was playing on the radio, commentating on what we thought was being said or what may or may not have been happening while people watching… Just reliving our teen years i guess. I feel horrible, useless, pathetic, worthless…
Was it asking too much to suggest keeping technology to a minimum for the time we were away?
I felt like her phone was far more important than anyone or anything while we were away and i think that is what hurt the most.
Maybe we have to sit back and remember that we may rely on our laptops, smartphones and such to live our daily lives and get our work done… but let’s not forget about living, breathing human beings. The friends we have had face to face contact with for quite some time. They have feelings, unlike our technological items…